My mother became ill in August 2008 with ovarian cancer. This is a story of the final months of an exceptional woman.
Saturday, December 20, 2008
How I do It
Friday, December 19, 2008
Wednesday, December 17, 2008
A Song for You
I now find myself singing it, full throated, on our verandah "Shangri-La" under a leaden sky looking out on a wonderland of ice and dirty melted snow thinking of you as you trot about this world in ways beyond me at present... .

Tuesday, December 16, 2008
Tis the Season of Giving
I have a more ambivalent relationship to gifts than to Santa-Paul. Like most folks enough stuff is never enough but even given my chemobrain and the general stupefaction that results from living in the Age of Madison Avenue I cannot help but notice Paul and I have far, far too much. Translation: do not send us anything.
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BUT, you might consider doing something in my name? I enjoy the spotlight you know.
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One of my favorite people in all the world, Angelo Pagano, is a serious do-gooder. He counsels folks going in for blood tests and supervises telephone helpline answering banks. All volunteer. Every week. And I feel good when I cast a beneficent smile upon someone. He is also the fellow who has done so very much to make a difference in my life. If it were not for him planning, arranging and setting in motion trips to France, Italy, England, Yosemite....all over... for me these wonderful things might never have graced my stay here in this world. He also spent hours and hours and hours putting the worlds best music on an IPOD thingie and sent it out to me to play on a stereo device.
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Now Vic Damone and I are an item every day crooning to the frozen snapdragons out back. ( http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DuUpxt-I1jc )
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Who can ask for a better person in their life? And, Angelo never says things like "I love you" nor expects it in return. A low maintenance dude if there ever was one. He should be used as a template on life's assembly line.
Well...last year he got his fit and sexy bod on a bicycle and peddled his 54 years the 500 plus miles down to Los Angeles to raise money for the AIDS Foundation. I was too sick and distracted and demented to remember to contribute!! This year will be different. Won't you help me clean the egg off my face by contributing something to his ride in my name? Much better than sending me a gift or a card or flowers or anything else this Season. Just let me know you did it and I will have my sleep restored to me!! You will be truly Santa's Elves this year if you do this for me. Or is it Santa's Dwarfs? That damned chemobrain again. I refuse to blame my beloved Agave Tequila for anything. . .
Angelo Pagano: Biking for Dollars
Judy & Angelo Chew the Fat, Ravenna, Italy
Angelo teaches me to Dance

Without your support: A Do-Gooders Destiny

I will have Angelo fax me an summary update of his contributions on a weekly basis. Like Santa I will be checking to see who has been naughty or nice!
Filled with the Light of the Holidays,
Judy (via jeff)
* http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5U1-OmAICpU
**After my heart blew up and I got the valve job last November it is reported I uttered a memorable line. QueenJanita entered my hospital bathroom and noticed a largish mass inhabiting the toilet bowl. In good Nurse Mildred Ratched style ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nurse_Ratched) ( here is a scene from one of Janet's typical workdays--home or hospital, it's about the same: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B5NyyC-UjBM ) Janet came back out and congratulated me on my achievement. I happily nodded my head (they were giving me Agave Tequila IV for the pain ) chirping "yes, it was a Jolly BM"
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***http://mizflounce.blogspot.com/2008/10/blows-my-mind.html ;
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Sunday, December 14, 2008
To Susan on her Birthday

All your friends and family find you to be a true delight and jewel. No one could be more devoted or such a good friend. Besides, you are always so much fun even when times are tough.
I send you all my love on this your day!!
Since it is your Special Day I think some of the glory of it spilled over on me. I feel like a human being for the first time since about 2006. A miracle I can only thank you for. That is, I felt human until Paul got me mad about 3 minutes ago. Send me some more of your Birthday Vibes, to counteract Big Biscuits for me, OK?
Judy(via jeff)
PS Your birthday costume is a marvel. I know your son, Brad, has fantabulous artistic inclinations. Did he do your makeup?
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About Me
- Judith Marie Jones
- Vacherie, Louisiana, United States
- Born in rural Arkansas my tongue took up residence in my cheek shortly thereafter. I use it to speak "Genteel Southern Lady". Cussin' I only use when provoked by the Uppity. Paul, my husband, and I have lived in Cajun Country for many years raising cane, twins (a boy and a girl; now adults? definitely old) and other mischief. Alligators, water moccassins and bears have tussled with me as I protect our swampy coastal farmstead. We are stuck now on lovely Lake Hamilton near Hot Springs where we have our second home. We have been here waiting for Godot since my heart valves blew out Late November 2007 and now with cancer diagnosed August 2008. The Furies have me in their sights... I am writing this blog to let my Beloveds know how I am doing so they will not "get off" in imagined ways on my dire straits. The reality is bad enough without turning my story into a B-grade movie of the mind. I know all of you wish me the very best. And I miss you! never no mind your fevered imaginations. This is as close as I can get to a fond and loving chat with you right now... Sadly, Judy aka Mizflounce passed away peacefully early on Sunday morning May 30th 2009 age 78.
